What Type of Custody Arrangement Will Work Best for Your Family?

When a couple moves to the point of pursuing a divorce in a marriage where children are present, the most important question quickly becomes evident: Who will get custody of those children? It is often the single most contentious issue in the entire divorce proceeding. When you find yourself in a divorce proceeding, Ronald Saper Law Offices might be able to help you with all your questions.

In the ideal case, the parents will be able to agree on a shared custody arrangement in which both parents share both legal and physical custody of the children. Unfortunately, this is often not the case – so other custody arrangements must be explored. Let’s look at some of the more common custody options.

First, some basic definitions. “Legal Custody” refers to the right to make the decisions that affect the children, including the areas of education, medical care, religious upbringing, as well as all legal issues. “Physical Custody” refers the right to determine where the child will live, and to the responsibility of seeing to the children’s daily needs, including all responsibility for their care and well-being.

Sole Custody

When one parent is awarded sole legal and physical custody, that parent then has total responsibility for the children’s physical needs, and all decisions that have to be made in regard to the matters described above. In other cases, one parent may be awarded sole physical custody, but the legal custody may be shared. This type of situation might occur when the living situation of the non-custodial parent is not conducive to the well-being of the children, but the parent is otherwise capable of making sound judgements regarding their welfare.

Joint Custody

In situations where joint custody is ruled, it means that both parents will share custody in some way. Shared custody requires that the parents work out schedules that make it possible for the children to split their time between the two parent’s locations. Typically, a set schedule is maintained, which will help reduce the stress on the children. This can only work when both parents live in the same vicinity, so that the children can remain in the same schools. When the parents’ locations make this impossible, shared physical custody must be modified to take school schedules into account, with visits to the alternate parent limited to weekends and summers.

Joint legal custody is generally a simple matter, as there is little likelihood that legal custody can be parsed into different domains. For example, it is unlikely that a parent would be judged competent to share in legal decisions on the child behalf, but not well suited to making medical decisions for them.

Bird-Nest Custody

This is the least common form of custody arrangement, and for good reason. While it is probably the best possible arrangement for the children, it is also the one which requires the most self-sacrifice and cooperation on the part of the parents. Birds-nest custody refers to an arrangement in which the children continue to live in the original family home, and the parents take turns living there with them. This obviously requires that each of the parents have a second place to live, when they are not staying with the children.

In the ideal case, the parents could both share a second domicile, since they need never be there at the same time, unless the children are present as well. This type of arrangement would require that the divorced parents be on sufficiently good terms that they could work together on all issues regarding the upkeep and maintenance of the second home, and not find themselves continually at odds over day-to-day annoyances. Since this is not a likely outcome in most cases of divorce, to set up this type of custody arrangement each parent must have a separate second home, with all the attendant expense and inconvenience that entails – which is the reason that this arrangement is rare.

Deciding on the best custody arrangement is just one of the many challenges you will face as you go through the child custody process. To ensure that you have all the information and resources you will need to protect yourself and your children, you need to have a high-quality Custody Guide that you can keep at your fingertips. With access to all the latest information when you need it, you can be more confident about your approach, and be more certain that you will not be ambushed or caught by surprise.

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